"Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy." — Leo Buscaglia
Feeling worried
and anxious? Find some comfort in knowing you're not alone and that these feelings
are completely normal. Fear and panic relating to the coronavirus are spreading
faster than the virus itself.
Worry is not
productive. It’s not helping us problem solve. It’s not helping to motivate us.
And it’s pretty
easy to tell the difference between worrying and problem solving. With problem
solving, you find solutions. With worry, you just find more worries.
Today, I’m
going to tell you the six steps you can take to start problem solving right
now.
1.
Figure
out a solvable problem.
This can be harder than it sounds. First, you have to ask yourself “Is this
really a problem?” So many times our problems are actually just worries in
disguise. A solvable problem is one that you have control over, and that is
happening right now. Solvable problem: I can’t pay both my phone bill and my
car insurance. Unsolvable problem: The person I’m dating likes me less than I
like them. In the solvable problem, you’re in control of what happens. In the
unsolvable problem, you aren’t.
2.
Brainstorm
solutions. Try to come
up with at least ten. There are no bad ideas when brainstorming. It’s important
to push yourself to come up with more than a few because that’s when you’re
most likely to have a new idea. Something you haven’t thought of before.
3.
List
the Pros and Cons. Pick
your favorite two solutions and write out the pros and cons of each solution.
Doing so will help you decide which solution to try first.
4.
Decide
on a plan. Decide
between your solutions. We recommend picking the one you can get started on
right away, if possible. Then flesh out your plan. Who is involved? What will
happen? When will it happen? Why are you doing it? Where will you do it? How
will you do it?
5.
Do
your plan. Hopefully
you’ve picked something you can do right away.
6.
Evaluate
it. How’d it go? Did it
work? If not, reflect on why not and consider starting this process over again.
Uncertainty is
a fact of life, so try to accept that you will always have to live with and
tolerate some uncertainty. Unexpected things happen and accepting this in the
longer term will make your life easier and reduce your anxieties.
Don’t be fooled
into thinking that your worry will always be helpful. Worrying is normally a
very inefficient attempt to problem-solve. So when you worry, try to turn this
into useful problem solving by considering what you need to do now to deal with
the problem.
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